Be Bold

All the time, people say to me, "Wendi, I like _______. But he/she doesn't know I exist!! What do I do??" And every time, I tell them to be bold. It's really very easy. Don't believe me? It's the truth. For girls, I admit, it's a little easier. I personally like dropping things in front of the guy I like, or bumping into him all too purposefully. Then finally dolling up, batting my eyelashes and say "HEY! I LIKE YOU." But that doesn't mean guys can't do stuff like this too. Be painfully obvious. Get her a rose. Stick a note on it that says "You're cute. I like you. Will you go to ________ with me? Check Yes or No. Return note to _______." Seriously. It's THAT easy. And if she checks no? So... What. You haven't invested years and years of emotions to this girl. If you HAVE invested a lot of emotion into a person, and you're just NOW telling them you like them... well there is your problem. You have to go for a person as soon as you're interested. That way, there isn't any crushed "what might have been" dreams.. because you haven't had time to develop those kinds of fantasies. Crushes and getting the guy/girl should be the easy part. You nab 'em. You date 'em. And after a little time goes by, and something comes up that the two of you just can't work out, you move on. It's easy. Things only get complicated when... there are more than two people involved... if maybe more than just a little time (say... a year and a few months) goes by, and one of you goes off the deep end, and the other has to learn a hard lesson in letting go... But... all THAT deserves another post entirely.