TELL ME I'M PRETTY!

All too often, girls seem to think that if they "drop hints," their guy will pick up on it, and do whatever it is that girl is hinting at. I hate to break it to you girls that think this is a full proof plan, but men are not designed to be able to pick up on subtlty. For example. Generic girl wants flowers. Generic girl says, "Wow, Generic Boyfriend. My Generic friend's boyfriend bought her flowers. Wasn't that nice of him? God that was nice of him. I bet she really enjoyed those flowers. They were really pretty. They looked like they smelled really nice. God I bet those flowers just made her so happy." Do you know what Generic Boyfriend heard? Generic Boyfriend heard the story of Generic Girl's friend's boyfriend getting her flowers, and he was probably tempted to say, "cool story, bro.".= I promise, he did not understand that she wanted flowers. What Generic Girlfriend should have said was, "Hey, Generic Boyfriend, We are going out this weekend. I would really like it if you got me flowers to go with our date." Do you know what Generic Boyfriend heard? He heard that she wanted flowers. Girls also have a tendency to indirectly ask for complements. I absolutely HATE it when girls say absolute crap like, "god, I'm ugly." All this girl is doing is fishing for a complement. Instead of calling herself ugly, waiting for the boy to argue, she should do what I do. "TELL ME I'M PRETTY!" I know I"m no Jessica Alba. But I think I'm pretty. Even still, it's nice to hear. When I want to hear that I'm pretty, I don't lie and tell Zach that I think I'm ugly. I say (sometimes I yell), "TELL ME I'M PRETTY!" Then I give him a flirty little michivious grin, and he tells me that I'm beautiful. "But, Wendi," some may argue, "I really don't think I'm pretty." Well. If you REALLY don't think you're pretty, you have another problem entirely. I promise that confidence will add like... sixty-eight pretty points. And if you really are just absolutely hopelessly ugly... well. You can always try to be funny. OR, you can find a boy who is just as hopelessly ugly as you. I digress. The point is, your boyfriend doesn't think you're ugly. If he thought you were ugly, he probably wouldn't be with you. Not that I'm saying all men are shallow enough to dismiss a girl just for being ugly, but if he is regularly taking time out of his day to spend time with you, and he treats you right, I promise it isn't because he thinks you're ugly. So go ahead. Ask him to tell you that you're pretty. He already thinks it. And we all like to hear it. Just ask. Do you want him to give you flowers? Ask him. Do you want him to take you somewhere new? Ask him. Do you feel like you don't have as much of his attention as you deserve? You definitely SHOULDN'T do something drastic to get it. You should just... tell him. Tell him that you feel like his XBox gets more love than you. Tell him that you feel like his bottle neck and poker buddies get more attention than you. Communication is quite possibly the strongest factor in keeping a relationship. It also tends to be one of the most neglected. Which is probably why the divorce rate is so ridiculous these days. This goes for guys too: If you aren't happy, if something doesn't feel right, say something. And if you feel like you can't tell your partner that something is wrong, then you have a bigger problem altogether.

On an entirely different note:
I have been neglecting this already. But I'm in a coffee shop... drinking my first mug of coffee... ever... it's like two shots of espresso... some chocolate stuff... and loads of sugar... and a puff of cinnamon. It is wonderful. My point is... what better setting for blogging, right?
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And... I'll take ideas and stuffs. :)

Wendi's thoughts on "The Virgin Diaries"

Ellen had her say. (If you haven't heard Ellen's thoughts on the upcoming show, please click here, watch video, and continue reading.) And although, I agree with the "less chewing" part, I don't think this show should be made fun of. In fact, I applaud TLC for this show. Yes, the... ah... kiss... in the trailer is rather amusing... with the guy eating her face and everything like a nervous 13 year old boy... but in all seriousness, I think it's a good idea. MTV and VH1 have their shows featuring teenaged mothers. I am NOT bashing teenaged mothers. But I feel like the young mind is easily influenced by those shows to think thoughts like, "Wow. Those are normal everyday girls... JUST LIKE ME... they're on TV... because they had a baby... I have the equipment for a baby... GenericBoy was flirting with me in class the other day.......*text*hey genericboy wut u doin 2 nite?*text* .... HOLLYWOOD HERE I COME!!!" Which isn't quite the right motivation to create another human. That being said, I think TLC is doing something cool by putting out a message saying that it's okay to be a virgin. I have met people that are my age and are ashamed of their virginity. You haven't had an opportunity to knock boots with a member of your desired sex? So what? Maybe you have? Maybe you have had sex with so many people, you can't count. So what?? Societies views on sex-status is a bit... strange to me. Women virgins are said to be prudes. Women who have sex regularly are whores. Men who haven't had sex aren't "cool." Men who have sex regularly are "Players." Uncool.... Prude... whore... player... People of all sex-statuses can be labeled with any of these negative names... Why? Why does it matter so much that a girl decides to wait? Why does it matter that a guy chases (and gets) as many girls as he wants? Why does society care so much about how much sex people do or don't have? I'm glad that there are shows like Teen Mom. It says, "Here is what happens when you have sex and aren't careful." I'm glad that PG-13 movies have steamy sex scenes. They say, "Here is two people enjoying sex." And I'm really glad that someone is coming out with this show about virgins. It says, "Virginity is cool too, you guys!" I don't think a person's morality or character is determined by how much sex they have. I think if partner A has feelings for and expects more than sex from partner B, but partner B only wants sex, and partner B is aware of partner A's expectations, but continues to just have sex, THEN there is an issue in morality. So if you're engaging in some "afternoon delight" tonight, or just hangin out "like a virgin," enJOY it. Do what you do. And if anyone judges you for it, tell them to stick a fork in a toaster. :)

Grow down!

"Act your age!" "Grow up!" "Stop acting like a kid!" I hear phrases like this... all the time. People seem to think that I am immature. Maybe in some instances, I am. I am almost twenty years old. I thoroughly enjoy movies meant for kids. I would rather go swinging in a park than hanging out at a club. I only ever order Happy Meals from McDonalds, and I won't touch vegetables. I am absolutely fascinated with toys meant for children. But I don't think things like movie, food, and activity choice define maturity. How DO you define maturity? I think a person is mature if they are responsible. I think a person is mature if they are reliable. I think a mature person is punctual. I think a mature person knows how to test the waters about what kind of conversation is appropriate with new people. I think a mature person knows when it's their turn to speak. And for the most part... I am responsible, reliable and punctual, AND I'm pretty sure that I clam up more often than I try to make sure I'm heard. (Although, that probably has more to do with my chronic shyness than my maturity level.) I THINK, that people need to find the line between one's lack of maturity and one's embracing of his or her own inner child. I even think that we should all do a little more embracing of our inner child. Go swinging. Find an old toy and just play with it. GET A PUPPY! Go see a kids movie. Let loose a little. We're all so concerned with keeping up appearances and trying to comply with activities and interests that are supposed to be the social norm of our age groups... that we forget to have fun. And maybe doing kids stuff isn't fun for everyone... but you shouldn't rule out a night of  roller skating because you're afraid of being the oldest one there. Grow down a little. It'll probably do you some good.