First, let me start off by saying that I LOVE Nicholas Sparks. I have read every book he's published (except his newest one. BUT I have it on my iPad and intend to read it soon.) Yes, his stories are a tad repetitive. Yes, the movies are starting to get more hype than they might deserve. But, ever since I read my first Sparks book when I was 13, his stories of a love that is so absolute and pure has inspired me to never settle for anything less than I deserve. But there is one recurring theme in a handful of his books that hasn't sat quite right with me since I've gotten older. True love never fades. True love never dies. To be really truly in love means to never truly let go. FALSE! And Nicky isn't the only one that likes to sport that idea. Movies, songs, and other authors like this idea too. Although it is a nice sentiment, it is completely untrue. Sometimes, people can be in true, real, stupid love. And sometimes, it is requited 100%. And sometimes, those people have to learn to take their heart back, put it back in their own chest, and eventually, hopefully, give it to someone else some day. I hate how a person can look at another with such stars in their eyes, and honestly believe that they are really truly in love one day, and after time, for whatever reason think, "God... what was I thinking? Those feelings I had must have been indigestion or something. Those feelings were not legitimate. That was not true love." And now, because its over, they completely devalue everything that it was before it was over. I think that might be a defence mechanism. Or maybe people are afraid to show their vulnerability. "If it was true love, it wouldn't be over," some may argue. But I can tell you from first hand experience... that. is. not. true. I have learned that no matter how much you may be in love, no matter how much the two of you had planned, no matter what the two of you have already shared, no matter how much you fight for the one you love, sometimes, you have to let go. Believe me, I know how much easier that is said than done. Letting go is one of the absolute hardest things that we has humans have to do sometimes. But when you let go, when you move on, I beg you not to deny those stars you once had in your eyes. That guy may have been a complete and total tool that wouldn't give you the time of day. But don't deny those imaginary conversations you wanted to have with him. Don't deny the woozy feeling in your stomach that he gave you when he looked at you the right way. He may not have deserved those feelings, but they were there. You had your heart set on marrying that girl, and for whatever reason, she backed out. You can't deny that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with her. Just because your heart doesn't feel it now, doesn't mean your heart was wrong in feeling it before. It's okay to fall out of love. It's okay to be hurt and angry because things didn't work out. "But I was so young when I thought I was in love with him." That doesn't make it any less real. "But I have loved since then and it was so much better." That is great. But it still doesn't devalue what you once felt for the one before. Don't turn your love for someone into hate or apathy. Let it go. And instead think of the things the person you loved taught you about yourself and what you want out of love in the future.
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